Do Not Grieve the Holy Spirit

Ephesians 4: 29-32  Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear. 30 Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. 32 Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. 
I do NOT want to grieve God.  When I speak out negative words or unwholesome words, I grieve God.  I want my words to be kind words, tender hearted words, forgiving words.  I have been convicted of this and continue to watch my mouth!!!  I want my tombstone to read "She spoke kind words always."  When I speak against someone I am not only hurting them, but I am hurting the people to whom I speak the words.  My words should be grace to the people to whom I speak.  So, how do I vent my frustration?  I will pray for them instead.  Now I can try and look at being irritated as an opportunity to really change the very thing I am irritated about.  Lord, please bless that driver and keep him safe on I-29! Lord please bless that politician and give him Your wisdom.  Lord, please bless me and remind me how powerful words are and how my words can grieve You or bless You and others.